Forgiveness is:

  • Giving up all hope for a better past
  • Giving up the resentment to which you are entitled
  • Returning unkind acts with kindness
  • Taking responsibility for how you feel
  • Healing your wounds
  • A trainable skill that everyone can learn and practice
  • Living in the present instead of being controlled by the past
  • Taking back your power
  • Becoming a hero instead of a victim
  • A means of releasing negative energy that could be potentiallydamaging to your mental and physical health
  • Your choice
  • The virtue of the brave
  • Giving kindness
  • Showing mercy
  • Walking in another’s shoes
  • An act of love
  • Understanding and accepting other people
  • Breaking the emotional bond you have with your offender
  • The attribute of the strong
  • Setting oneself free
  • Forgiving oneself
  • Leading us to the transcendental realm

Forgiveness is not:

  • Forgetting that something painful happened
  • Giving up your feelings
  • Denying or minimizing your hurt
  • Condoning unkindness
  • Excusing poor behavior (making a wrong a right)
  • Reconciling with the offender (although you may choose to)
  • Telling the offender you have forgiven them (although you may choose to)